Fears..

Again this topic comes from Nicolete. If you have a topic you think I should include in my blog please get at me using one of the methods in the contact me page.

Nico suggested I should talk about fears, specifically fears of failure, social rejection, bullying, and poverty. Keep in mind Im 45 years old so my point of view may differ from yours.

Fear in general is not logical because you suffer twice. Thinking about the the thing you fear then actually living it. I have a well… its not a motto but its a technique. (I suppose this could come from my previous job too) What I do is I take a deep breath and say reassuring things to myself like I belong here, or these people want to hear what I have to say. Then I come out looking like I’m not social awkward or otherwise in an uncomfortable state. Always keep in mind as much as you think about stuff sometimes (even petty stuff) the man or woman next to you is doing just as much thinking. (Even the X rated stuff) Now take into account the millions on this planet all of those people thinking. Mind blowing huh? So keep in mind your insecurities could also be someone’s insecurity too or they could be completely different but everyone feels them.

As much as I would like to say I was ever bullied I never way. Nor did I bully as far as I remember. Bullying is for the weak. Its like the kid with the biggest mouth in the school yard is the one with the glass jaw or goes down easily. With bullies there really is nothing to do but do as every old man has said. Stand up for yourself and they will back off. If this means just verbally or physically if you stand up for yourself and of course back it up they will back off.

Living in America I have little fear of poverty. Well that’s kind of a lie. I live with my aging mother and father in a separate apartment which is good for both of us because I can help them and I can also save on rent. Which in America is crazy. My wages would barely keep me alive if I was in my own place. Also, considering both my parents are in their 70s I don’t mind spending the extra time with them.

Fear of rejection can hold you back quite substantially. Imagine you were too scared to go to your first day of school? Where would you be? Without an education unless you are home schooled. This is easier for me to say because rejection is something you will get in one form or another many times in your life. Really the things you got to decide is if you take the rejection to heart and dwell on it or do you take it and brush it off your shoulder like the pimp you are?

Social rejection and other paranoias are always in a persons head and if they slowly address the issue with a counselor, if needed, you can get through it.

I have my own demons which I will discuss someday but I have little to no fears that I have faces thus far in life.

-E

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